At that moment, consciousness looked at the thought “I can’t live with myself,” and I realized there are two here—“I” and the “self I can’t live with.” And then there was another little thought: Who is this self that I can’t live with? But there was no answer; that was the last question. And then it didn’t matter.
https://www.eckharttolle.com/article/Spiritual-Awakening-Of-Eckhart-Tolle
Who is this self that I can’t live with?
That insecure, sad, resentful self is a made-up thing in your mind. It does not really exist anywhere else and only you feed it.
If you wish to do so, you can change it or drop it.
Fate Permitting 